So many people have a fear of failure (me included). What makes us fear failure so much, when we have been failing all our life? Failure is how we learn. Think of yourself as a baby. Every single thing we learn, we learn from trying and messing up (failing) and trying again. We keep trying until we get it right, until we get it right every time we try, until it is a part of us, a habit, we don’t even think about it anymore.

Walking for instance. We don’t turn 9 months old and instantly walk “perfectly.” How do we learn to walk? We are stood up by adults to strengthen our legs. We pull up ourselves – many times to fail/fall. We start letting go to stand on our own – many times to fail. We start trying to take a step – fail. Try again – fail. We get lucky and take 2 steps. Ooops we fail again. Do we ever think as a baby: “I don’t want to do that, I might fail.” After we fail 3 times does the baby say: “That is enough of that, I was not meant to do this.”

Look at how you learn in school. Someone shows you how – you don’t get it completely yet. You do some work with the teacher in class – you mess up, you still don’t have it exactly right. You do some homework – you get most of it right but you still miss a few. But with all that failure, most of us can add 1 + 1 and write our name in the first few weeks of kindergarten. But, none of that happened without a lot of failure along the way.

So the next time you catch yourself thinking:
“I can’t do that.”
“I’m no good at this.”
“I’ve tried that already and it did not work.”
“I’m not ready to _____.”
“I’m too old to ____.”

STOP! 

The question you have to ask yourself is “Do I want to?” and then “What steps do I need to fail at enough times to get it right for the long run?”

Come on, let’s go do some FAILING today, so we can ENJOY the fun of winning tomorrow.